the reason for which something is done or created or for which something exists.
"the purpose of the meeting is to appoint a trustee"
a person's sense of resolve or determination.
"there was a new sense of purpose in her step as she set off"
Why is it so hard to find your purpose?
It seems that increasingly we’re finding it hard to find and define our purpose but that also, for some reason, we seem more resolved to find our purpose than we ever have been. There are so many people I know who have embarked on careers, raised or are raising kids, who suddenly start feeling like they’re not meeting their full potential or that they’ve lost their way.
It’s not like there’s a limitation on the choices we can make or to the important problems that this world needs solved on a smaller or bigger scale. There’s literally no limit to the passions and interests we can pursue, how many times we can change careers in our lifetimes, or to how we can branch out in life.
There are many reason for why we may not know our life purpose or for why we’ve lost sight of what it is. Sometimes we just get overwhelmed by the enormity of the problems that exist in the world and while we want to help and be of service we just can’t find a way to chunk it down so we know where to start. Sometimes we just feel too exhausted to change direction and take on something new, even if that something is just a new way of thinking and viewing the world, and we just don’t have the energy to fight for even the things that really matter to us.
Sometimes we get in our own way and we start to think that what matters to us doesn’t matter to other people. Sometimes we forget that having purpose doesn’t necessarily mean that we will be making money, that we may have to have a job that supports us while we follow our purpose, and that it’s OK, that the job is a means to an end, the enabler that means we can do what we’re meant to do. This may be true for a long period of time but it may also be that in the beginning phase of us starting out on our purpose we’re not fully seeing the potential we have to contribute in the that area.
We have a tendency to shy back from things that we know is going to mean a lot of hard work. If you feel that you were put here on earth to sing in front of people to entertain them but you just don’t want to put in the hard work and pain it takes to be really good at it, odds are you just don’t want it enough. You may need to review your purpose and rethink things a bit.
Very few people are fortunate enough to know from the time they are very young what their purpose is. For most of us finding your purpose is life-long journey and it will change over time.
But, finding your purpose isn’t an intellectual pursuit. Sure, you can sit back and look at patterns in your life and probably see what it is that’s made you fire up and get energised, you can see the things that get you steamed up easily and that you want to see change in this world, and you can discern a pattern.
But, the more you think about purpose and wonder if it’s going to work out or if you should try it, if you’re qualified to do it and if you’re going to be able to make money from it, the worse it’s going to get and the more trapped you’re going to feel. To avoid that trap you have to start trying new things, take action that’s new to you. You have to start changing something about how you’ve been doing things so far. Taking the same tired steps is just going to keep you the same pattern. A lot of the time it’s not that important what you do, just do something. You will learn something new and you will get new input, new data to work with, and the experience you get is the reward you get for exploring new territory. Taking action is where you start seeing change and you get new results.
If you want to know what your passion is it’s not your mind that’s going to show you the way. You need to drop into your heart to find out what you love and what makes you feel all fussy and warm. When you work from the heart it’s easier to be passionate, to be more joyful and grateful, and to feel motivated to go on exploring. If you do something you love motivation and inspiration flow on their own and you automatically move towards what brings you the most sense of purpose.
One of the traps I see a lot of people fall into is thinking that they only have one purpose, one thing they’re meant to do, but we’re far more multidimensional as human beings than that. When you limit yourself to one thing it’s more likely that you feel that something is missing. Odds are that if you start listing your passion you will be able to group a few of them together into one larger umbrella purpose but there will be outliers that refuse to fit in with anything else. It doesn’t mean that you have to let go of them, it just means that you need to find another way to fulfil those passions. When you’re in touch with more of your passions you lead a fuller life and you’re more likely to feel like your living on purpose.
To wrap this up, one of the best ways to live a purposeful life is to find out what you’re passionate about and then to couple with that with some sort of action. Taking action will help you feel your way towards what your purpose is.
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